We’re good at putting it on our kids to “be good” and “do what is right.”  Today, I was harshly reminded I’ve been an overachiever in this area.

It seems I’ve also successfully created unfair expectations (through a well executed stink eye) to extend pressure beyond my kids–onto my pastor’s kids in order for them to act…perfectly.

Why?  Look no further than how you view your pastor.

If I’m guilty of putting my pastor on an ivory pedestal with a bronzed plaque that reads, “Reverend Wonderful,” it goes to figure my pastor’s kids will be products of his awesomeness, right?

It’s safe to assume Katy Perry faced undue pressure as a PK (pastor’s kid).  She’s admitted she is also one of the approximately 70,000 PKs in America today who admit they do not believe the tenets of the Christian faith.  No believing there is a God.  No believing there’s a Heaven or hell.  Why?  A research study said the number one answer from pastors was unrealistic expectations placed on the kids.


If you’re involved in a church, here are 3 ways you can help your pastor’s kids:

  1. Love them.  Not because their dad is the pastor, but because you care about them.  Period.
  2. Treat them like kids.  We already fail as adults- how could we ever expect kids to live up to the high expectations we’ve set in our minds?
  3. Don’t ‘ride the pine.’  A church full of people who step up to minister to others rather than staying in the pews/seats understands their pastor can’t do it all, and he needs time at home in order to be a dad to his kids.


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